Gifts for Him
- New Dads need to remember that babies aren't really breakable. He should not be afraid to hold hiss! He should ask someone who is around to show him some great holds for little ones whether it be a midwife, doctor, nurse, doula, mom, relative, friend, etc.
- If he is feeling left out, he should talk to his partner about it. Chances are it's not on purpose.
- New moms often have emotional ups and downs that are not predictable. He should be supportive and offer an ear when possible. He should try to learn the warning signs of postpartum depression and seek help if the situation is heading out of control.
- New dads can also experience the blues or postpartum depression. Much in his life has changed and its important to realize this and get help if he needs it as well and he also needs to know who to ask for it. You may even offer it.
- New Dads need to remember that the only thing they can't do is breastfeed. They can change diapers, soothe a crying baby, carry the baby, play with the baby. Mom need breaks too.
- Mom is going to need extra sleep and care while her body recovers. A new Dad should get up with the baby when he can. Bring the baby to her in the middle of the
night if possible. If Dad must go back to work he should check in with her during the day. Perhaps surprise her with some healthy take out food or fresh flowers.
- Remember that adding a new baby to the mix is always going to stir his life up a bit, even if it's not his first baby, learning to live with another human being takes time.
- Offer to help give Dad a break!